Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Much Needed Motivation

"I have found that the life of an activist can be a very lonely one." -The Honor Diaries

While you may have the gumption and passion and courage to stand up against opposition right now, there is no doubt that you will have many experiences where you question everything that you have whole heartedly believed at some point because it is difficult to stand up for what you believe is right and there are many people that will want to suppress your voice and limit your passion but don't give up. 
You may need some motivation along the way, and if you are anything like me, quotes can be an excellent source of strength so below, I have have included some of my favorite quotes both from the movie The Honor Diaries and of all time. 
Enjoy. :)

"We don't need sympathy, empathy, pity. We don't need the Noble Prize. We don't need to be Time's Woman of the Year. We don't need any of that. We need systematic change in the Muslim world so millions of women are not daily victims of misogyny... systematic, institutionalized misogyny." -Nazie Eftekhari

“Begin each day as if it were on purpose." -Mary Anne Radmacher

“Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.” -Mary Anne Radmacher

“Live life fully while you're here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You're going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don't try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.” - Anthony Robbins

“Live with intention. Walk to the edge. Listen hard. Practice wellness. Play with abandon. Laugh. Choose with no regret. Appreciate your friends. Continue to learn. Do what you love. Live as if this is all there is.” -Mary Anne Radmacher

“At the end of a matter ask, "what will I learn from this to make me better?” -Mary Anne Radmacher

A Continuation of this Dialogue

"The continuation of this dialogue is to let women speak about this with the support of men and women of other faiths, or other cultures, other communities, because without them, we cannot make a change." -Fahima Hahim

As I have said in previous posts, this is an international, interracial, intercultual, intergender (yeah, I made those words up) issue but we must ban together in order to make a change.


Below, I have complied a list of groups and organizations around the world that you can gain information from and join (I will be updating this list as necessary):

Violence Against Women:
•US Department of Justice Office on Violence Against women: http://www.justice.gov/ovw


Sex Trafficking:
•List of organizations that combat sex trafficking: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_organizations_that_combat_human_trafficking

•Coalition Against Trafficking in Women: http://www.catwinternational.org/

•Sex Trafficking Awareness and Advocacy: http://www.polarisproject.org/

Female Genital Mutilation:
•http://www.equalitynow.org/fgm

•16 Organisations, Charities and Grassroots Groups Working to Stop Female Genital Mutilation: http://16days.thepixelproject.net/16-organisations-charities-and-grassroots-groups-working-to-stop-fgm/

Stand Up: A Call to Action

In my last post, I mentioned an organization that I recently created.
This is not an action that I take lightly and this is not me trying to get personal attention.

I believe that things need to change in America and right here in Illinois.
Why do I believe that I can lead a movement?
Well, I don't. I need people working with me every step of the way, but I bring a few things to the table: passion, hunger for change, activism experience, and political connections.

While I can discuss the organization more in-depth in a personal message, I want to quickly cover what we can do and what we *will* be doing to Stand Up For Illinois and Stand Up Against Sex Trafficking.

•First, sex trafficking is generally a taboo topic. When a topic is not discussed, it can never be addressed and changed.
We need to start bringing sex trafficking to the table.
There are great ways to incorporate sex trafficking into a conversation without making it awkward or boring.

•Second, people do not realize how close to home sex trafficking is. Sex trafficking happens throughout the state; just in 2010, 411 calls were made to the police in Illinois about potential sex trafficking situations and only 60% of sex trafficking in Illinois occurs in Chicago, which means that 40% happens throughout the rest of the state, possibly right in your backyard.
We need to make people aware that this is not a global epidemic, it is a local one and if impacts EVERYONE.

•Third, the laws that are currently on the books are NOT working. Pimps and Johns are not seeing justice and the victims are getting prosecuted. The current system is perpetuating the problem. Legislation has not moved forward in Illinois to protect the victims and prosecute the problem makers.
We need to show our political representatives what matters to US and why we elected them: to protect all of our rights and to stand up for what is right.
Currently, our voices are not being heard.
We need to stand together, join forces with other groups around the state, talk to individuals, circulate petitions, protest offices and let our State Representatives and Senators know how much of a priority this is!
This is NOT a partisan issue. This is wrong across the board.


Sex Trafficking is an issue in Illinois, and it is not being properly addressed but together we can Stand Up for what is right.
Together we can make a difference.

•Please EMAIL ME if you are interested in being an active member in Stand Up Illinois!

We need your help.

Please note, I do not expect all of you to be located in Illinois (or even in America) so please email me if you would be interested in created or joining a movement in your own state and I will assist you in whatever ways I can.

Bringing the Topic to Light

"It is through fear that extremism happens. It is through ignorance that these problems result." -The Honor Diaries

Many problems arise through fear of the unknown.
People are often fearful to bring up topics that are unfamiliar or strange because they simply do not understand.

Political, social, and sexual crimes against women often fall within the category of unfamiliar and are therefore not adequately addressed.

I live in Normal, Illinois (yes, it is the most boring named town ever), and many of the crimes against women that I have talked about in the blog seem far away.
Well, seemed far away.
I did not realize just how close to home these problems are.
Female Genital Mutilation happens in America.
Forced marriage still occurs.
Honor killings happen in communities that least expect it.
And Sex Trafficking, another topic that I am particularly passionate about, happens right here in Illinois.

In 2003, the New York Times named Chicago as a NATIONAL HUB for human trafficking and not very much has changed since then.
In fact, right now THERE ARE MORE PEOPLE IN SLAVERY THAN EVER BEFORE IN HUMAN HISTORY.

Why does sex trafficking exist?
•Human trafficking is an extremely lucrative and low risk market for the sex traffickers because there are few laws against it and more importantly, few laws IMPLEMENTED.
•The International Labor Organization estimates that there are 20.9 MILLION victims of human trafficking globally, and the US makes up for 63% of all sex trafficking victims.
•It is the second most profitable "industry" in the world, raking in billions of dollars a year.
•Pimps are hardly ever prosecuted and Johns (the buyers) are often just fined or issued misdemeanors when caught WHILE THE PROSTITUTE generally GOES TO PRISON, even if she/he was the one to alert the police because there are often no Safe Harboring laws.

So, yes, this is awful, but what can be done about it?

Well, as I will detail in my next blog post, there are things that can be done, by individuals, by you to illuminate and illuminate sex crimes against women.

After growing frustrated about the lack of progress in orgnaizations across the country, I decided that there was only one thing to do. Create my own.
I recently created Stand Up Illinois that will work to raise awareness about these crimes, work with other groups to create a united front, and change legislation in the US that allows these crimes to continue.

A Day I Will Never Forget

"There should be no taboos. We are in a country where we have freedom of voice. Let's utilize it, do its up most and not be intimidated by those who want to shut us up." -The Honor Diaries

A documentary came out in 2002 called "A Day I Will Never Forget", documenting Kenyan women that reveal personal experiences of Female Genital Mutilation.

It saddens me that I was not aware of this documentary before, as it seems that it should have received more recognition than it did.
I have not yet personally watched the documentary, although I plan to blog about it when I do; however, after being made aware of its existence, I found an excellent review of the film on disabilityworld.org by Barbara Kolucki.

Within this review, Kolucki talks about the reasons why FGM is practiced:
"Deeply imbedded beliefs... The film presents us with all of the rationalizations why this practice continues: it is part of culture and traditions that must be kept alive; the clitoris is either a male organ or that it is somehow "dirty"; the practice keeps women from being promiscuous; it is demanded by religion, etc. We also hear from a small group of women who have been subjected to FGM and say that they can still feel aroused - and that they accept it as part of the wish of their family and the men they will marry. What is most evident is that these beliefs are deeply embedded in the minds of women and men from all walks of life."

I think that documentaries like this, that interview women who support the practice, as well as women that discourage FGM, is necessary to gain a better understanding about the underlying cultural believes that surround the practice.

I think that since many Westerners do not understand FGM, they demonize those who practice it. I believe that it is important to understand the tradition and the cultures surrounding it, and not to simply disregard it as savage or inhumane.

Let's talk about it.
Let's see it from every perspective and give the mic to those that have experienced the practice first hand.

First and Foremost, There Needs To Be Awareness

"There is a lot that needs to be done [in America] as well. There are organizations that we need to support, there is legislation that needs to change, but first and foremost, there needs to be awareness. And this awareness will come through discussion, dialogue, debate... by not ignoring the problems and pushing them under the carpet, but actually bringing them upfront." -The Honor Diaries

Sometimes it is overwhelming to think about all the problems that exist, all of the injustice in the world, and all of the obstacles one must face in order to bring about change, but when I get discouraged, I think about all of the things that HAVE changed and how this is the perfect time in history to bring about global change.

There is more awareness about human injustice than ever before. 
The internet has expanded access to knowledge about issues across the world and in almost every single country on Earth.
Social media is an amazing tool to gain global reach, to connect to fellow activists, to spread awareness for the movements, and to take action.
Transportation helps expedite the process and technology is on the side of progress.
Democracy allows for people in many countries to voice their opinion and to start movements against oppression.
Access to education is ever increasing.
People are also living longer and healthier; therefore able to leave communities and return with global perspectives.

This is the perfect era to bring about real, progressive, global change which is very encouraging.

Women's Progress is Human Progress

Hilary Clinton once said, "We must declare with one voice that women's progress is human progress."

Well I believe that it has been time for humans to progress for a long, long time.

It is not women against men.
Until women find a way to reproduce without men, we will need them to coexist in our society, side-by-side (yes, the beginning of this is sarcasm).
But what is not a joke is that in order for any change to come about, men need to stand up for women's rights, as well.
An army of women is great, but an army of men and women is better.

We need change, and the only way to bring about change is to talk about the topic and agree that justice for women, is justice for everyone.

It should not be isolated as a cultural, religious or regional goal, but an international one, with a single united front to identify and address these world-wide problems.

Something that was brought up in The Honor Diaries was the fact that there are men on the board of the UN that are representing countries that have laws on the books that are purely there to oppress women.
I did not realize how wrong this was to have representatives of the United Nations in powerful, global positions, representing governments that believe that women worth half of what men are, support female genital mutilation, lash women in the streets for wearing "unIslamic" garments, do not let women drive, force 10-year-olds into marriages, limit education for women and punish those that speak out against their government.
These countries, and therefore these ideologies, are being represented within our global governing body.

Something needs to change.

From Stranger to Source

While I was typing my last blog post, a girl sitting next to me began talking on the phone in a language that I associated with an Indian dialect.
When she hung up, I asked her if she would be willing to answer a few questions about her culture. Saham told me that she was Sikh and was born and raised in America, but her parents came to America from India.
When I told her about The Honor Diaries and about the topics that were discussed, one particular topic perked her interest.
"It sounds terrible to say this but honor killings are kind of a norm in my culture," Saham says.
She goes on to tell me about how in India, honor killings are not discussed, but the perpetrators are not penalized. She told me that in many cases, it is culturally acceptable to punish or even kill your daughter for disgracing herself or the family.
She then told me about what she describes as the cast system of acceptable people to marry. Saham says that her family is very progressive, but even still, her mother sat her down when she was 15 and told her that it was only acceptable to date people within her "cast". She told me that she would not force her daughters to marry within their culture, but that she herself would not date outside of her culture and was in fact engaged to a fellow Sikh.
Many of Saham's friends are interested in dating outside of their "cast" but must keep their relationships secret from their family and friends, even right here in America.

This blew me away! Sitting right next to me in an American university was a woman that was raised in such a different way. She was engaged to someone practicing her own faith, not necessarily because she loved him (which I am not implying that she does not), but because it was culturally unacceptable to do otherwise.

She told me that as long as your parents (or grandparents) are alive, you must do nothing to disrespect or shame them, which is why these traditions are maintained for so long.
Saham believes that she represents the last generation to engage in traditional behaviors, such as marrying within the "cast" and that her children's generation will not have to follow many of these traditions. Saham told me that things were progressing, not only in America, but also in India, as well. But I honestly cannot help but feel that these progressions are not happening rapidly enough. Just the fact that honor killings are still acceptable prove to me that things are not where they need to be and every day that these "norms" exist, victims are at risk.

The Most Systematic and Widespread Human Violation in the World

Having embedded patriarchy and systematic, institutionalized sexism in a society has many symptoms.
Of course Female Genital Mutilation is one of these symptoms, but there are more: forced marriages, sex trafficking, honor killings, rape, punishing women for not acting "appropriately", forcing women to wear certain clothes, taking away voting rights and driving rights, aggression and violence against women, etc.
The list could go on for miles.

I believe that this forced submissiveness and aggression against women is rooted in fear and power.
Then again, don't most things arise from fear and desire for power?

What better way to feel powerful than to suppress an entire gender, half of an entire population?
Control the government, create laws, and enforce punishments to those that disobey you?
Take away their voice by making them feel powerless.
Isolate them by making opposing opinions "taboo" topics.
Justify your oppression in religion and in honor.
And constantly reinforce your ideology by making examples of those who question your power.


In some places, women are not allowed to be OUTSIDE without a male "guardian" and they are most definitely not allowed to drive or vote.
They are depended on the men in their life (fathers, husbands, brothers, sons) to inform them, guide them, and makes decisions for them.

It is the most cruel and inhuman practice I can possibly imagine.

As Nicole Kidman once said, "Violence against women and girls is perhaps the most systematic and widespread human violation in the world."

I would add oppression to this.
My quote would be something along the lines of, "Violence against and oppression of women and girls is most definitely the most systematic and widespread human violation in the world."


"My mom had to pay extra for a new razor."

The Honor Diaries is a must see documentary about violent crimes against women world wide.

About 15 minutes in, the documentary directs its attention toward a topic that I am (obviously) very passionate about, Female Genital Mutilation.
They bring up so many valid points, I feel that I will not adequately address them all (which is why you should see the documentary for yourself), but I would like to bring up some of them and also voice my opinion, because after all, this is my blog.
I realize that I am not as experienced, exposed or knowledgable about the topic as many women are, but I do bring what I believe is a unique sense of curiosity and passion to the table.

The quote that I entitled this post is one that really stood out to me during this part of the documentary.
A young girl was talking about her experience of being "circumcised" as a child.
She talks of her mother exchanging money with the woman responsible for doing the procedure and she says that her mother had to pay extra money for the woman to use a unused razor for the cutting.
Not only are the women being stripped of their dignity by having all or some of their external genitalia removed or sewn shut, but also they are at risk for excessive bleeding, ripping, infections and tetanus or aids from rusty or used razors.
ALL for what?!
So that women remain "pure" until marriage? So that women do not cheat on their husbands? So that women look less manly? So that women are "honorable"?
No. None of this makes sense to me.

Many people argue that female "circumcision" is similar to male circumcision but I whole heartedly disagree.
Male circumcision can have positive medical benefits and does not limit male sexuality, whereas female circumcision has no medical benefits, can be very dangerous and is meant to limit the sexuality of the female.

At about 17 minutes into the documentary, a Muslim man said, "[Female] Circumcision is the reason why Muslim women are virtuous, while Western women run off to their sexual appetite in any place with any man."

I thought that FGM was a regional problem, but I did not realize the extent to which it is directly relates to religion and culture.
FGM is widely practiced in Muslim dominated areas and although female genital cutting is not found in the Koran, it has been adopted into these societies and is "going everywhere in the world that the Muslim Brotherhood go."

According to the documentary, about 6,000 girls are cut EVERYDAY.
"It is a plague. It is an epidemic."

And yes, it is on the shoulders of mothers and mother-in-laws to get women in their family cut because the men sneak out of this responsibility-- but while women are perpetrating the practice, "it is still a game of survival".
Women that choose not to have their daughter's cut know that there are consequences in their culture for this choice.

There is a "power patriarchy control" where women are made to preserve the patriarchy in these societies and are controlled by their father, then brothers, then husband, and then sons.

"Embedded patriarchy... The power and policies are such a lethal combination."

You can weaken and control someone by taking away their power to make decisions, take away their autonomy and take away their ability to choose what is wrong and right.

Human Injustice Anywhere is a Problem Everywhere

As mentioned in the last post, I went to Ferguson, Missouri directly following Darren Wilson's verdict.

Why do I think this has a place in a blog about Female Genital Mutilation and violent crimes against women?
Because human injustice anywhere is a problem everywhere.

Below I will put the observations of the night that I arrived in Ferguson and the day that I spent in Missouri cleaning up the city after the riots devastated many businesses.

The night of the riots at about 11:00PM:
From the moment I drove into the town, it felt eerie.
The first thing you notice is the smoke.
Not just the smell of it, seeping through your vents and filling your nostrils in moments, but also the look of it, creating a fog-like filter on the entire town.
Then come the sounds of sirens, they're in the distance, but seemingly from every direction.
The stop light coming off the ramp didn't work and there was not a single vehicle the main roads.
Until you came across Chambers St...  There was virtually no way to drive down Chambers, although many curious drivers were attempting to do so but where thwarted off by police on loud speakers constantly repeating, "Turn back the way you came, you cannot continue... I repeat, turn your vehicle around."
If one were to take one of the many side streets that lead to the center of Chambers St, around Florissant St, they would generally be deterred by one of the police helicopters beaming the blinding light into their windshield (as happened to me many times).
This is where I found the few signs of distressed city dwellers as a black man in an SUV leaned out his window, hollering incoherently as they roared past.
Although the town seemed abandoned upon entry, exiting was a different story all together.
Every stop light and sign was met with eager on-lookers in vehicles and police blockades shining their flash lights into each car.
After my heart rate decelerated and I had regained my sense of direction, I headed toward the high way and came to the realization that there was absolutely nothing I could contribute or detract from Ferguson at this time of night.
As I began my journey to find the nearest rest stop, I glanced to my left to see, off in the distance, an entire building engulfed in flames.
I fought the urge to turn the vehicle around.
I'm thinking that maybe tomorrow the shock will have passed and people may be able to relay their reflections of the event to me.
I haven't a clue what I was expecting on my journey here tonight... But I'm pretty sure this wasn't it.


The day after the riots at 7:00AM:
I wrote this entry as if I was making a documentary or news package about the day, all of my writing is based on honest observation and actual quotes, with no exaggerations, but admittedly, some bias and opinion.

It would start with the sound of a police car, then a slow zoom out to reveal the hair supply store, with the windows shattered and the contents destroyed by fire, smoke and sprinkler damage.

The next shot would be of the white, older eye glass business owner.
She is in tears telling me that they've been in business for years, it didn't have to come to this, and she doesn't understand.
I would then step back to reveal the 40-something-year-old black gentleman that walked in, needing to pick up his glasses.
I would keep the camera rolling as the owner put down her broom that she was sweeping glass with to go find this gentleman's glasses, with a weak and apologetic smile on her face and tears still in her eyes.
I would carry the camera down the street, recording the damage and stopping at the Walgreens that had been torched, focusing my attention on the eventual main character of my story, Terrence Williams.

Terrence is a black gentleman in his mid-20s, currently talking to a young white male.
As I approach, Terrence is telling the white male why he has a full trash bag in his hands, "We need to make sure that people see the positive, too. We need to construct something positive from the destruction that occurred here last night," he is saying.
I make sure the mic picks up his profound words and instead of asking him for an interview, I decide to follow him around and see what else he has to say.

As we make our way down the block, picking up discarded and unpaid for wine bottles, beer cans, SIM card packages, socks, wigs, candy, and jewelry, a young black boy in the sixth grade walks up to Terrence asking if he can help.
He introduces himself as Josh and begins picking up items around the shattered glass by the nail salon.
Terrence says, "See? Positivity breeds positivity."

We make our way further down the block, picking up litter and loitered items.
"I want to make this place look even better than before," says Terrence.

Josh heads home after filling two garbage bags and we continue past the local bank.
I make a comment about how the broken windows of the bank are a federal offense as we put our bags into a kind white lady's trash can.
But I get the feeling that it's all the same to Terrence, destroyed property in his community.
A community that he is proud to call his, even amongst all the destruction.
We come across a Chinese restaurant with the owners family standing outside, talking to a few men that look to be in the construction business.
They turn out to be owners of a business down the street that was not hit by the rioters (I refuse to call them protesters, which yes, is my own personal slant).
Terrence asks if he can help and before they can even give him direction, he grabs a broom and starts sweeping the glass.
I feel out of place and useless until someone asks for the tables to be wiped down, I grab a rag and follow suit.
The broken windows have to be removed and boarded up, this is a sight you see at nearly every business on the block: plywood replacing glass, as if that's just the way windows were meant to be.
There are now about 15 people at the restaurant, removing glass, putting up plywood, sweeping glass, emptying trash... Helping one another along the way.
There are two black males, one black female, two Asian males, two Asian females, four white males, and three white females, all working together to put this one shop back together.
An older white business owner of a supply shop that hadn't been hit tells me that if he wasn't here, he would be deer hunting.
It's the last day of the season, "But there will be other seasons. I need to be here, helping my community," he tells me.

One of the dozens of journalists walks up and starts taking pictures.
"I hope your telling this part of the story, too," I say.
He tells me that he'll try. He is an older white male. He asks me if I'm from around here, then tells me that he's from Ferguson.  He is an overseas freelance journalist who just returned from reporting in Afghanistan.
"Who knew that you would be coming home to a war scene?" I half heartedly joke.
"No kidding," he says.
We talk about how sad the whole situation is and then subtly shift the conversation to a less heavy topic.

No one wants to talk about it. But it has to be addressed.
As we're standing among the ruins of a beautiful community, there is no way to escape the reality.
There is a problem in Ferguson, but it's not just here and it's not so much about the community itself.

When the Chinese restaurant no longer needs our assistance, Terrence and I decide to walk back to our cars.
We think that the businesses have all been assisted, but on our way, we run into a group of people. Terrence asks if we can help.
Every group of people we run into are friendly, introducing themselves, shaking hands, giving hugs, and always thanking each other profusely.
No one really talks about what happened, just what needs to be done.

At this point I meet Sam Flynn, a young, white, male student at the St. Luis hospital who made a trip down after working a night shift, listening to news reports and talking to patients about the riots. Sam was eager to see the town first hand and ready to offer his services.
Terrence, toting a garbage bag, Sam, dragging a massive trash can, and I, carrying a large push broom chimney sweep style, formed a trio of helpers, staking out our next clean up mission.

We swept the glass by the roadside, remanence of two torched police cars, then walked past the fire station.
Terrence asked if he could clean up beyond the blocked off area, and began engaging in friendly conversation with a middle age, white police officer.
The camera operators for nation and international TV, radio and newspaper outlets went wild, catching an ideal interaction between a young black male and a white police officer.
I wish this was all that was needed to make everything better.  But it's not.
While I was standing there, pondering this, a young Hispanic woman carrying a tray full of cookies briskly walked up to a black police officer behind the blockade and handed him the tray.
This reminded me to shake the hand of the officer near me and Sam and I thanked him for his service.
By this time, we had made our way up and down the block on either side and Sam and I were satisfied that we had done our part.
We said thank you and goodbye to Terrence, who was still engaged in friendly conversation, and set off to return the trash can and broom to the business at the end of the block.
I said my goodbyes to Sam, who I now considered a friend and got lunch at the Chinese restaurant that I had helped clean up and was already open for business.

Apparently Terrence was not satisfied, as the last time I spotted him was a couple miles away from blocks we had spent the entire morning cleaning and was now in the worst hit area, where the roads were completely blocked off and the businesses were still smoldering, going above and beyond to restore the image of the community he cared so deeply about.



Racism is a Business and White Men are the CEOs

With the Baltimore Riots all over the news today, this brings back the time that I went down to Ferguson directly following the announcement of the police officer's not guilty verdict, which I will post in another entry.

Violent crimes against women is a human injustice, but so is the systematic and institutionalized racism in America (and many countries') justice system. So allow me this brief moment to rant a little.

Did you know that in Ghana, Africa, many of the advertisements, dirty magazines, and billboards were of white women?
Reinforcing the idea of impossibly unachievable "white beauty".

Racism is a business and white men are the CEOs.
I'm not saying that every white man or woman is consciously at fault or that certain "nonwhites" do not live up to stereotypes but YOU are a part of the problem.
We all are.
We are maintainers of the system.

For example:
When we see a black man dealing drugs, rioting, looting, raping a woman or stealing a purse, many of us attribute it to their skin color.
We use this isolated situation to reinforce the stereotype of the ENTIRE race.
But when we see a well dressed, behaved, and educated black man we see this as an exception and disregard that as unique and not the norm, therefore perpetuating the institutionalized racism in society.
Or even by attributing his intelligence, character, kindness, and tact to behaving like a white man.
IE. "That is the whitest black guy I've ever met" or "This guy is an Oreo, black on the outside, white on the inside".
Yes this happens ALL the time.
Let me set something straight, you cannot act WHITE.
You are attributing positive characteristics with a color or skin and reinforcing the idea that white is good and nonwhite is bad.

When will this stop?
We need to stop dodging the topic of race just like we dodge the topic of gender and sexism.
We need to understand that race matters and RACISM EXISTS.
If you say that you don't see color, you are not being honest with yourself.
I cannot speak for all white people or for any entire race but I can speak from what I see, hear and experience as a individual white woman knowing that I was born on the shoulders of giants, but actively seeking solutions to these problems of human injustice.
All I'm asking you to do is be honest with yourself.
Are you reinforcing stereotypes or perpetuating racism by attributing isolated actions to an entire 'race' of people?
Stop yourself in these situations and think,
"Is this a 'black people' thing or are people just rioting and most of them are black? *Oh wait, there are some black men in suits, attempting to stop the violence.* Who is the rule here, and who is the exception? Or are they individuals, not a representation of their entire 'race'? What am I basing my judgment on?"
Many, many people will not agree with me but I have never been one afraid of voicing my opinion when I believe that human dignity and justice is at stake.
If you are offended, well then, that seems like a personal problem to me.

And I want to end it here; however, I believe that this leaves little room for discussion. As I mentioned before, I am not able to represent an entire race or gender or anything, for I am only an individual with opinions and experiences. 
Every perspective is entitled to their opinion but oppression is not an opinion and acts of oppression and human injustice have no place within a just society.

Monday, April 27, 2015

Let's Talk About Honor

I watched this amazing documentary tonight about violent crimes against women called The Honor Diaries

Wow. It blew me away. 

I knew that FGM, sex trafficking, forced marriage, and honor killings were institualized within misogynistic societies but I never realized the extent of it and just how widespread it is. 
This is an international problem and it is not being adequately addressed.
The women in this documentary were so passionate and knowledgeable and motivating!
I feel like if enough of us get together and talk about the problems within societies, cultures, religions and traditions from the root up things can change. 
Things will change. 

My next few entries will be about specific aspects of the documentary, quotes that stood out to me, and ways in which I think that I (and you) can help make a difference in this movement to empower women.